Do You Know Who You Are?
If you’re anything like me, you’ve had a voice in your head for a while now:
• “What am I doing with my life?”
• “Am I going in the right direction?”
• “Is it supposed to feel this dull? Isn’t there more to life?”
• “What am I supposed to do with my life?”
• “What’s the purpose of my life?”
• “Do I have a life purpose? Is there such a thing as a life purpose?”
• “What’s my passion? Can I make money from it?”
• “What am I here to do? There must be something more than this!”
• “Who am I really?”
If you recognize any of those questions, then you’re in the right place.
I had all of those questions and more.
And I’m here to give you my process for discovering your life purpose, the
work you’re here to do.
I guarantee that this process will lead to the answer, though I can’t say
how long it’s going to take. This process is part science, part magic. This
is about your inner voice speaking to you. Depending on how open and
pliable you are, or how shut down and stuck you are, it could take a
minute. But if you’re committed and persistent, you will find the answer.
Trust me. I was very shut down. I was super disconnected from my inner
self. And I figured it out. If I can do it, you can, too.
There’s a pandemic going on in the world right now.
It affects mostly men in their forties, sometimes as early as late thirties.
The symptoms may include irritability, depression, excessive drinking,
busywork, hobbies, and other distractions or numbing out.
I’m not saying those things in and of themselves are bad, only that this
disease can cause patients to do these things in excess.
What’s that pandemic I’m talking about?
I’ve met a lot of guys who have achieved success. Sure, they’re no
Zuckerberg, Dorsy, or Spiegel, but they’ve got a great income, a wife,
maybe a house, a couple kids, and life’s pretty good. They can afford a
nice wine, a nice couch, vacations, and all of the little luxuries of life.
But something’s missing.
They’re not quite sure what it is.
It’s just that the things that used to give them pleasure, maybe even joy—
good food, sex, travel, and other experiences—don’t really do the trick
So they’ve set goals for themselves. Run a marathon. A triathlon. Learn to
play the guitar. And it’s cool. They did it. Felt great.
But they still have that nagging emptiness inside.
They try to make it go away. Let’s go to the Galapagos. How about
jumping out of an airplane? Maybe a new hobby with the wife will do it.
But it doesn’t.
The itch is still there.
Can you relate to that?
I bet, if you’re reading this, you’re feeling that itch, too.
You may try to ignore it.
But it’s there.
What is that itch, and what’s the cure?
The itch is that little voice inside telling you that there’s more to life than
There’s more to life than a nice place to live, wife and kids, red wine and
steak on Saturdays, a vacation now and then, a good job, yadda yadda
There’s something you’re here to do, and you don’t know what it is yet.
Your mind is probably telling you it’s silly. There is no such thing as “life
purpose,” life is whatever we make it. You live, enjoy it as much as you
can, and then you die.
That’s what society tells us. That’s what we’ve been brought up knowing.
But it’s a lie.
There is such a thing as life purpose.
And until you’ve found yours, you’re a ship adrift at sea. Thrown hither
and thither by the currents and the winds.
Until you’ve found your purpose, you are rudderless.
Once you’ve found your purpose, you are unstoppable.
A huge part of a man’s self-respect, self-esteem, and self-worth, lies in
knowing and living his purpose.
It’s what we’re here to do. And we know it.
Our wives know it, too.
And though they rarely say it out loud, they cannot respect us or fully
trust us until we are actively living our purpose.
Most women aren’t even aware of this because the men in our society
have gotten so weak. Women have learned to settle for what they
can find. But inside, they’re hurting. It’s making them take on more
leadership and more control than they really want to. But they feel they
have to for their own safety.
By not living our purpose, we’re not just letting ourselves down, we’re also
letting our wives down big time.
But it doesn’t stop there.
By not living our purpose, we also let our kids down.
Children need healthy role models. They need a father who knows
himself and knows where he’s going. Kids don’t do what we say, they do
what we do.
Your boy needs that kind of role model for his own life. Your daughter
needs a father who knows how to make women feel safe, so she knows
what to demand from the man she will share her life with.
This stuff is vitally important.
But it doesn’t stop there.
You’re letting your parents down, too. They put you into this world. They
sacrificed for you, so you could grow up to be the man you are today.
Sure, they were far from perfect. But they did their best. All parents do.
It’s how we’re wired.
Your parents gave you life. Regardless of your feelings for them (and I
strongly recommend that you forgive them and make peace with them,
but that’ll be a topic for another day), you owe it to them to live your
But it doesn’t stop there.
You’re also letting the world down.
That may sound abstract.
But your purpose involves being of service to others. It always does.
So obviously, by you not living your purpose, those people that you’re
here to serve are missing out.
They’re in pain.
Because of you.
They suffer because you haven’t gotten your shit together and found your
All these suffering people because you have so far refused the call.
Because you’ve been too selfish to do the work that life asks us to do.
So what are you still waiting for?
The stakes couldn’t be higher.