Insight: My will vs. your will

Most people are focused on my will pitted against your will. Who will win? How much will I have to give? And so on.

The way I see it, there's an outcome that's most true for everyone concerned, and our job is to use our perceptive faculties - what we know, what we see, what we feel, what we intuit, and so on - so that we may together discover what that outcome is and go with it.

My will and your will has nothing to do with it. My desires and your desires are factors that inform our collective work to find the outcome that is most true.

It's a very different approach, and it throws a lot of people off.