Coolness can be learned

Apropos the discussion of fixed vs. growth mindset a few days ago.



I used to smoke. And when you smoke, there’s probably at least 10 or 12 things keeping you in the habit. And one of those things for me was that I believed it made me look cool. The reason I knew that is that I knew people that I thought looked cool, and they smoked.



Well, a few weeks ago, I happened upon an additional piece of information. One of the people who I thought looked cool, it turns out, spent countless hours smoking in front of the mirror, perfecting his cool look.



What did I take away from this? The more effortless it looks, the more effort probably went into perfecting it. Even being cool is not something you’re born with. It’s something you’ve trained for. Interesting.

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Wow that is so, um, cool! When I was younger I had no idea why some kids were so much cooler than the rest of it. Some is natural to be sure, but this confirms my suspicions about practising cool. Of course as for the reasons someone might feel a desire/need to practise cool - well there are both good and bad reasons for this.
By Mark Aufflick on Fri, Jul 20, 07 at 07:01 · Reply
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Hehe - one might argue that "coolness" is a social construction that depends on both the learned skill of the "cool guy" as well as your own insecure conviction that you are inherently "un-cool". Maybe he really is not all that cool. And maybe you are really not all that un-cool.
By RasmusJ on Fri, Jul 20, 07 at 07:01 · Reply
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