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Our job

This has been sitting as a draft since November 2010. Figured I'd post it now ...

Steven Pressfield:

Our job in this lifetime is not to shape ourselves into some ideal we imagine we ought to be, but to find out who we already are and become it.

It's so easy to get consumed by heroes and advice and things you read in books or on the internet, and to get caught up in the game that is self-improvement, working harder, learning more, trying to become more like some of your heroes.

But the real...

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Upset

If we're having a political conversation, and you’re visibly upset and aggravated, that's okay. It just means that we cannot take your words at face value right now. We have to figure out what's underneath the anger or the defensiveness or the posturing, so we can continue the conversation.

When we're triggered (upset, angry, sad, hurt), we get tunnel vision. We cannot see or think straight. Let’s talk that through, so we can get you back to your full resources.

It's okay to...

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"Horrible people"

A reader was kind enough to engage me in conversation. I love when that happens, and I'm super grateful. Here's the conversation. I'm not revealing the name of the other person, just wanted to share the content.

This was in response to my blog post What if everything that's wrong with politics is wrong with all of us?

He writes:

Why is there a problem with "all" of us ? 

This notion seems awfully politically correct to me. There's a problem with racists and nazis. 

I mean,...

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Understanding each other

I want to organize a series of conversations. Dialogs, even. Two opposing viewpoints, me in the middle.

The idea is to let one party speak, while the other two listen and genuinely try to understand where the other person is coming from, what their fears are, their desires, their values, and their thinking. The goal is not to figure out where they're right or wrong, but only to fully understand their point of view, with an open and curious mind and an open, caring heart. Then we turn to the...

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BAMN

These people are scary!

"By Any Means Necessary". What does that mean? It sounds like violence to me. I'm not a fan of violence. I do not think it solves the problems.

And "No free speech for fascists"? I'm pretty sure that's not how free speech works. Speech is either free for all, or it's not free at all.

I draw the line at direct threats of violence. Those are not allowed.

Everything else must be allowed. Why? Not allowing people to speak their beliefs only serves to drive it...

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An alternative view of the Trump situation

I'm one of those people that first of all didn't think Trump was going to get elected, until I went upstate on November 7th and saw the large number of lawn signs for Trump, and virtually none for Hillary. I'm also one of those people who thought he'd be out by now, and who's following along in the riveting TV show that is the Russia investigating.

This talk by CIA whistleblower Kevin Shipp gives another perspective entirely.

He says the whole Russia investigation is the intelligence...

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A strong middle class

Simon Black writes:

This is one of the biggest stories of our time: the middle class… especially the lower middle class… is being decimated.

A strong middle class has long been the hallmark of modern western civilization.

In fact, history shows that throughout many dominant empires, from ancient Rome to the British Empire, a robust middle class is essential to maintain a durable society.

Where the middle class is strong and growing, civilization flourishes.

And where the middle...

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