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Apart from what you're thinking and believing ...

One of the things Byron Katie kept saying at her workshop at Esalen last weekend was this:

Apart from what you're thinking and believing, are you okay?

You might notice, that if you really check in, and you're honest with yourself, the answer is probably "yes".

It falls well in line with everything else I've heard or read from her, but that particular way of phrasing it was new to me. And I love it.

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Clear intentions

Having clear intentions is the ENTIRE game.

We can spend endless amounts of time and energy flapping about when our intentions aren't clear.

We can spend so much effort trying to work towards a goal, pretending to be working towards a goal. But if we're not 100% clear on what we want, if we're split, torn, if we have hesitations, concerns, doubt, worry, fear, guilt, or anything pulling is away from our goal, we're not going to get there.

In that case, it's much better to stop what we're...

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Not Sorry

A while back my friend Nick Gray sent out a link to this cartoon. It's fantastic. Click on it now.

Here's one:

If you want to say "Thank you for your patience", don't say "Sorry I'm always late".

I've really taken this to heart. I rarely say sorry anymore.

Apologizing always felt weird to me. My dad would sometimes make me do it. Would make me apologize to my brother, for example. I never quite understood it. How does the apology make things better? I did what I did in the moment because it...

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Matt Daemon on auditions

I love these glimpses where you realize that someone wildly successful and famous like Matt Daemon is just like the rest of us. He had to go through tons of rejections and learn things for himself before he got to where he is.

I particularly love the part where he talks about going to auditions early in his career, and always feeling like the people on the other side of the table were his adversaries.

Only when he was part of auditioning for Good Will Hunting did he realize it's the other...

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Dreams do come true

A little over ten years ago, around 2006 or so, I was working with my co-founder Christina Wodtke on a product startup centered around PublicSquare, a collaborative publishing platform, a product, business, and relationship that didn't go anywhere. At the time I was on a Tony Robbins binge. I was reading his books, listening to his audio programs, and implementing his advice. Fun fact: I've actually never been to any of his live events.

One thing that really resonated with me, and has stayed...

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