When I ______, then I ______

Boy is this a common pattern. When I have enough money, I’ll write that novel I always dreamed of. When I reach this next milestone I’ll spend more time with my family. When I’ve made my company a success I’ll have children. And on and on and on.



It’s always an excuse, and it’s always a mistake. If it’s important for you to do, do something about it now. If it’s not important for you to do, let go of the need to pretend it is.



Find a way to get started on that novel today. Find a way to spend more time with your family today. Start making that child today.



What’s the worst that could happen? You might find you really didn’t like writing a novel. Great, then you just saved yourself the time spent dreaming about it, and you can get started chasing the next dream. Or you might find that you love it, and you should’ve done this years ago.



If not now, when? If not here, where? If not you, who?

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>> When I’ve made my company a success I’ll have children. Personally, I've never been one to put abstract "to-dos" like that in front of my desire to procreate; unfortunately most women I come across feel different about the whole subject : (
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and after making a kid, you might realize, "hey i don't have any money to raise this child." or "god, i hate kids." lol. i agree that you can (and should) get started on a novel, business, etc...but not so hot on the kid-part...i guess that's just because i'm waiting on starting the kid-factory for a while...
By messels on Sun, Oct 28, 07 at 16:48 · Reply
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@messels: If you have no desire to have kids, then don't. But don't use the lack of money or success as an excuse not to. And history suggests when you have them, you will love them.
By Lars Pind on Sun, Oct 28, 07 at 16:48 · Reply
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